We’re Not Here To Compete, We’re Here To Complete

The leading cause of divorce is marriage and fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce. The rates go even higher; in fact, they skyrocket, on the second marriage. Until we deal with the root of our emotions, we still produce rotten fruit. Our actions and behaviors stem from past hurts. When we go to the bible, the bible says that love covers, love is kind, and love isn’t puffed up. I’m here to tell you, that is easier said than done!

Wouldn’t you PREFER to cuddle with those you love?

In Colossians, it says, “Whatever you do, clothe yourselves with love because it is the very thing that binds us together.” I think that we all would prefer to be snuggled up close to the people that we love. In every marriage, no matter how strong our marriage is, we’re going to have the opportunity to be offended, hurt, or aggravated every single day of the week.

The motorcycle ride vs. doing laundry

I was all ready to go for a motorcycle ride one day, when my wife, Nicole, walked in. I felt I should include her instead of just going off and doing what I wanted to do. So I invited her. You have to understand that I was ready to walk out the door, so this meant I had to wait for her to “get ready”. As it turns out, she doesn’t like motorcycle riding, but she felt she should accept in order to spend time with me doing something I enjoy.

I felt like I was doing her a favor and she felt like she was blessing me with her presence.

Meanwhile, I’m waiting for her, and I hear her say something about putting in a load of laundry. (WHAT!?) She thinks she’s taking care of me because I’ll want those clothes later. Yet right now, all I want to do is go on a motorcycle ride! Can you see how men and women see things differently in marriage?

Do we do things “for” others for selfish purposes?

In Philippians, it says, “Don’t do anything for selfish purposes” (Philippians 2:3) Could it be selfish to want to do the laundry? It can be selfish to put anything we want to do above what someone else wants us to do. “With humility think of others as better than yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3)

It’s godly to take an interest in the interests of others – – with humility.

Don’t be interested in only what you want to do, but be interested in what other people want to do, it’s godly. We actually get along better when we start putting other people’s interests ahead of our own. Remember, we’re not here to compete, we’re here to complete.
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