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If you want to get your wife naked, you’ll want to read this blog. Before you get offended, remember it did start in the garden with Adam and Eve in their birthday suits and THAT was a woman who was glad to be in the light AND naked at the same time! Why is a pastor talking about this? Because God created this earth suit that we wear and He never intended for us to be ashamed of it. The enemy is the one who introduced shame through sin and who twists the things God intends for beauty into something that God did not intend for us. The enemy uses this shame to create division between husbands and wives behind a very important door, the bedroom door.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” (Genesis 2:24-25)
What Is Behind The Door To Our Wife’s Mind?
The first step to getting your wife naked is to commit to learning what is going on behind the door of her mind. Before you turn me off, this is not as much of a mystery as we might think. If we would take a second and listen to our wives, they tell us what’s wrong, but we hear it the wrong way. Let me offer some troubleshooting tips.
The Symptom
She says: I feel fat. I have stretch marks. I don’t like my body.
What she is saying is that she is insecure and she has programming in her head that tells her these things AND that she believes it. What she thinks leads to how she behaves. It’s not that she doesn’t want you to see her body, it’s that she wants to please you and for you to be pleased to see her and when she doesn’t feel good about it, she doesn’t want to reveal it.
Being A Problem Solver!
Guys tend to hear a problem to solve. They might tell her to go to the gym, to diet, or to get over it. NO! When a guy does that he is reacting to the symptom, not the problem. As guys, we can begin to help our wife deal with her insecurity by providing the security she needs. Instead of being part of the problem, we can be part of the solution. We love solving problems!
How To Be Part Of The Solution
As husbands we can say: Baby, I love your fat. I love those stretch marks. I love that body. Come here and let me have some of that! I think you’re beautiful and the ONLY one for me! I only have eyes for you, Baby!
Location, Location, Location
On another note, we need to do this outside of the bedroom, as well. From morning until night, we need to compliment our wives, tell them how much we love them and be affectionate with them. Again, guys, we have to do that outside of the bedroom. If we only do it RIGHT BEFORE we end up in the bedroom, she’s only going to think you say it to get your way and that you don’t really mean it. For it to MEAN something to her, it has to happen when you aren’t trying to end up in the bedroom. (I know we always want to end up there, but we DO have to go out and earn an income SOMETIME!)
Men We Are Protectors. We Need To Help Our Wives Feel Secure And Safe About Who They Are And How We See Them
God created the beauty and intimacy of sexual relations between a husband and wife to be a fantastic experience. It is when the “two become one.” Guys we can help make this happen by being sensitive to our wives needs and by helping her to have a safe environment where she can feel beautiful and FEEL like the sexy thing she is in your eyes. Be part of the solution. Tell her day in and day out how special and beautiful she is to you, tell her in the bedroom how much you love her body and she will begin to feel safe with you and if you are consistent, she might even start believing you instead of the old messages in her head.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.“ Ephesians 5:25-27
Love your wives with your words. It’s the most powerful healing and protection you can provide for her. God will do the rest. God has a vested interest in your marital relationship…not just existing…but being a HUGE SUCCESS!!!
