When my daughter, Ashtyn, was 12 years old, I guess she was a lot like other girls her age. She had trouble keeping her room clean. It would get SO messy!
WORSE than what you’re thinking, right now. I mean, like a BOMB went off!
One day, I walked through her room and thought, “Oh my gosh! We’ve been robbed and vandalized!”
She had thrown off a blouse and the arm had actually landed IN the toilet bowl! There was no toilet paper on the roll and the dogs had messed stuff up EVERYWHERE!
I shouted at her. “HERE’S THE DEAL! THREE DAYS… NO PHONE!”
(Phone restrictions are WAY worse than corporal punishment to a kid.) She didn’t take it well. “WHAAT???”
NOPE. I stood firm… for a whole day.
Later, I realized I’d been a little too aggressive. I went back to her and said, “You know, your room WAS out of control. But, I was out of control, too. And I made a harsh judgment.”
So, I knocked a day off the phone ban.
Self-control isn’t just about how we react in the MOMENT. Apologizing doesn’t make you look bad in front of your kids. In fact, they’ll probably respect you MORE!
ANGER is a natural, God-given emotion. But, in the heat of the moment, don’t let it get the best of you!
Have a great day, today! I call you BLESSED!